Never Have I Ever

A tribute to Melissa Hortman

Never have I ever had the nightmare, much less a daytime phantasm, that a friend of mine could be the victim of a political assassination in the United States of America.

Never have I ever looked to the sky, as I did on Saturday afternoon, admiring three great blue herons over the Mississippi River, which flows from Minnesota to Iowa, then starkly recognize that the majestic birds are flying in “missing man formation.”

A rose between two thorns: Rep. Rick Hansen of Minnesota and I share a moment with our friend and colleague Melissa Hortman at a meeting of the National Conference of Environmental Legislators.

Never have I ever met a public servant quite like Melissa Hortman.

Over the past few days, I burst into tears when I see the image or hear the name of my friend. When I do not cry, I spit nails in rage.

Melissa was murdered for doing the work of the people of Minnesota. The deaths of Mark and Melissa Hortman at the gunpoint of a political predator is a blow against democracy.

I first met and worked with State Rep. Hortman – who later became leader of Minnesota House Democrats, then Speaker of the Minnesota House – at meetings of the National Caucus of Environmental Legislators and National Conference of State Legislatures. We also crossed paths as part of the State Innovation Exchange.

I am also friends with Minnesota State Senator John Hoffman who, with his wife Yvette, were shot multiple times in their home in the middle of the same night. They survive. I met John at some of the same meetings, including the Mississippi River Legislative Caucus.

Minnesota State Senator John Hoffman is an ardent conservation advocate. The Mississippi River runs through his district and hometown of Champlin. John lived in Iowa for many years. He is pictured here with two of our other colleagues at a meeting of the National Caucus of State Legislators: Jane Krentz of Minnesota and G.A. Hardaway of Tennessee.

Here is what I learned from both Melissa and John, along with the delegation of multiple Minnesota lawmakers who usually accompanied them to such meetings:

Melissa and her colleagues came to legislative meetings to work, not to vacation or relax on a political junket. They didn’t skip meetings. They didn’t hesitate to speak up, engage, share their experiences. That engagement brought results.

Melissa and her colleagues displayed great personal rapport, mutual respect and collective identity with each other and on behalf of their state. While they all no doubt brought with them different backgrounds, skill sets, priorities, opinions and leadership/communication styles, there was never a sense of ambition, competition, judgment or political gamesmanship among them.

Melissa and her colleagues extended those courtesies to legislators from other states. If you needed someone to hang out with for dinner or down time, the Minnesota delegation welcomed and embraced you. Never treated you like an orphan. Always valued your viewpoints.

Hundreds of people gathered at the Minnesota Capitol in St. Paul, one of the most beautiful campuses I have ever visited, for an evening candlelight vigil for Melissa and Mark Hortman on Wednesday, June 18.

Perhaps most important in these increasingly partisan times, Melissa, John and their Democratic colleagues did not separate themselves from or speak ill of their Minnesota Republican peers who almost always attended the same meetings. Outside observers would have difficulty seeing red or blue when Minnesota legislators of both parties were together. Personally, I always found every member of the Minnesota delegation personable, approachable and willing to exchange views in a respectful manner. And not just because Iowa and Minnesota are neighbors. They treated everyone that way (which is not to say Melissa was a wilting lily when other politicians earned her reproach.)

Melissa personally exemplified all these qualities as well as those in the testimonies I quote below, modeling behaviors her colleagues shared and to which others aspired. If you followed Melissa’s “rise to power,” you could see who she was increasingly reflected in the institution she helped lead.

As one of her last public acts, in a powerful gesture of political self-sacrifice, Melissa took the lone Democratic vote to support a compromise she agreed to, so none of her colleagues would have to fall on the sword. To avoid a shutdown of state government, the deal undid a signature piece of Democratic legislation extending health care to all. The Minnesota House is currently split evenly: 67 Republicans, 67 Democrats, operating under a power-sharing agreement Melissa negotiated. So compromise is essential. Melissa was that rare political leader who could effectively balance idealism with realism. (Then take your case back to the voters.)

By the way – not the first recall that jumps to mind – but Melissa and I shared a cross-section of common interests and concerns on environmental issues. Perhaps more on that in the future, but the high regard I have for my friend was not based on a transactional issue agenda.

True colleagues are people with whom you can sometimes disagree. I found the response to Melissa’s death by her Republican counterpart in leadership both remarkable and hopeful:

“I am devastated by the loss of Speaker-Emerita Melissa Hortman. She was respected by everyone at the Capitol as a formidable advocate for her values and her caucus. She battled fiercely, but never let it impact the personal bond that we developed serving as caucus leaders. Few legislators have had as large an impact on the State of Minnesota, and she was a nationally recognized leader in energy policy. She has had a profound impact on this institution and on my own leadership.” –- Rep. Lisa DeMuth, Speaker, Minnesota House of Representatives.

More testimony that resonated with me:

“If you can think of something that came out of law in Minnesota, whether it’s the bus you rode to work, or the street you drive on to work, the meal, the lunch, the breakfast your child receives at school for free, the time off you receive to care for your loved ones…if you see a solar panel in this state it’s because of Melissa Hortman. She advocated for planting trees across her state because we know we need trees to combat climate change, so people have what they need to keep their homes cool. She loved trees. She loved gardening. She loved the outdoors.

“Melissa Hortman made your life better in Minnesota. Melissa was the kind of person who would tell us to take off our blue jerseys and red jerseys when you go to work and be human. And Melissa made it possible (for us to) govern the State of Minnesota so effectively over the past couple of years. She was a fierce negotiator but she was a good friend. She was funny. She liked to have fun. We have all lost a giant, an incredible person. And we also lost Mark Hortman, who was one of the sweetest, kindest people, who loved Melissa so much and who was so proud of the work Melissa was doing in St. Paul.” -- Minnesota State Rep. Sydney Jordan, interviewed on MSNBC.

Melissa and Mark Hortman in their last public appearance, attending Minnesota’s Democratic Farmer Labor Party’s annual Humphrey-Mondale Dinner, Friday, June 13.

“I lost a friend, a colleague and a mentor. She was really the best of us. Melissa Hortman was a unique figure in our state. I think she will go down (in history) as the most consequential Speaker of the House in Minnesota history. Melissa was often the smartest person in the room but you never knew it because she was so humble and understated. She was a masterful legislator and negotiator. She was a coalition builder. She had the best sense of humor. She was hilarious. She was a good friend and mentor to so many. It’s just a tremendous loss to lose her and her husband Mark….Melissa was such a calm and steady leader. She would lead us in exactly that way right now. She would want us to go on, and she would do it in a calm and strong way, so I hope that we honor her legacy by doing that.” -- Minnesota’s U.S. Congressperson Kelly Morrison, interviewed on MSNBC.

In my last interaction with Melissa, we agreed to trade gifts after a football game between the University of Iowa and University of Minnesota. I would receive Minnesota wild rice. Melissa would get Iowa sweet corn. Didn’t matter who won. I don’t recall that we completed the exchange. We both had campaigns to worry about.

Never did I ever think that would be our last connection.

In gratitude for her friendship, I hope to contribute to a fitting living memorial to support public servants who want to make a difference, inspired by Melissa’s memory. When celebrations are in order, sweet corn will be served.

My nieces who live in St. Paul attended the vigil on my behalf and their own. Clearly, Melissa Hortman was cherished by many.

Postscript:

Listen to children and you will learn about their parents. This is the public entreaty of Sophie and Colin, Mark and Melissa Hortman’s daughter and son:

“Hope and resilience are the enemy of fear. Our parents lived their lives with immense dedication to their fellow humans. This tragedy must become a moment for us to come together. Hold your loved ones a little closer. Love your neighbors. Treat each other with kindness and respect. The best way to honor our parents’ memory is to do something, whether big or small, to make our community just a little better for someone else.

“If you would like to honor the memory of Mark and Melissa, please consider the following:

• Plant a tree.

• Visit a local park and make use of their amenities, especially a bike trail.

• Pet a dog. A golden retriever is ideal, but any will do.

• Tell your loved ones a cheesy dad joke and laugh about it.

• Bake something — bread for Mark or a cake for Melissa, and share it with someone.

• Try a new hobby and enjoy learning something.

• Stand up for what you believe in, especially if that thing is justice and peace.”